The Dunning-Kruger Effect and an Apology to my Mother

Mom, please accept my apologies…

(pretty please, on my knees, with a cherry on top!)

I’d like to officially apologize to my mother for all those times I thought I knew everything, when, in fact, I knew almost nothing. Actually, I probably owe a few of you this same apology. It’s free for the taking. Now that I’m slowing down a bit in life and have the luxury of time for self-reflection, I’m realizing a lot about the stories I’ve been telling myself.

Now, I’d also like to explain how this “over-confidence” came to be–and I’d like to warn you that you might not know as much as you think you know either.  So take a deep breath before you keep reading. Realize that none of this really has anything to do with an over-inflated ego.

Watch this video: The Dunning-Kruger Effect

*Thanks, James, for nudging me in this direction!

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Gift horse--from pixabay.com

Perspective and The Gift of Teeth

or Seeing the Unseeable

A week ago, I received a gift of teeth–and the gift of perspective. For the first time in my life,  I was able to see a part of myself I understood so little about.

My mother always insisted I had a big mouth. In fact, more than once she has noted I am lucky to have a big mouth and small teeth. I guess that’s my mother’s perspective on me and my mouth. (Maybe she was trying to say I talk a lot–but, as I’ve mentioned before, the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.)

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My audience

Audience: Who Are You Writing For?

Good question—who is out there in my audience? Until last year I thought I was writing for myself. My writing teacher rolled her eyes (at least that’s what I imagine she did. She was on the other side of the screen, so I’ll never know). She said, “A writer does not write for oneself unless she is writing in her journal. Who do you want reading your stories?”

“I was stumped.  “I sort of want everyone to read my work, don’t I?”

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